❥ 1) Learn About What Speaks Love To Her: Everybody communicates love in different ways. You probably tend to try to show her love in your language. In order for her to feel loved you need to find out what her language is and show her love in that language. Even if you once went through this and learned her love language, you might be surprised if you go through it again. It has been my experience that people's love language will change over time.
❥ 2) Act Enthusiastic Even When You Aren't: I'm not telling you to lie. Just show interest in the things she shares with you even if it is something that you don't care about. If she tells you one of her friends who you've never met is pregnant it's time to start asking questions and letting her share the story with you. It might not be important to you but she obviously cares about it if she brought it up.
❥ 3) Engage With Her: If she want's to talk to you it's probably a good idea to disengage with whatever you are doing and engage with her instead. Turn off the TV, video game, computer or whatever else you may be paying attention to and face her straight on. To men, face to face communication usually means conflict. To your wife, it means intimacy. Look her in the eyes and listen to her.
❥ 4) Use Active Listening Skills: You may have learned about this at work. It works in marriage, too. Make good use of nonverbal communication. Ask her probing questions or to clarify something if you don't understand what's coming across. Even if you think you understand what she's saying it might be a good idea to repeat what she's saying in your own words every once in a while. You can do this by saying something along these lines: "So you are saying that you feel..."
❥ 5) Forget About The Problem, Focus On The Emotions: You've probably heard a million times that your wife doesn't want you to solve her problems. That's because it's true a large portion of the time. Instead of trying to get her to tell you what the problem is so you can help her solve it just talk to her an empathize with her. This is her way of figuring out what the problem is.
❥ 6) Compliment Her: Your wife needs to feel beautiful and desirable. Find ways every day to compliment her. Text her from work to tell her you can't wait to get home. Notice the things she does every single day that tend to get overlooked. Praise her on her appearance or how well she handles the kids. Don't be generic. Find specific things to compliment her on.
❥ 7) Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Sometimes good communication just means serving her with actions. Give her a break from the kids. Do a chore she normally does. Take out the trash before she has to start in on you to do it. Ask her what you can do to help her. Marriage isn't about compromise; it's about giving 100% even when you feel that she isn't. BUY HER A GIFT EVERY NOW AND THEN!!!
❥ 2) Act Enthusiastic Even When You Aren't: I'm not telling you to lie. Just show interest in the things she shares with you even if it is something that you don't care about. If she tells you one of her friends who you've never met is pregnant it's time to start asking questions and letting her share the story with you. It might not be important to you but she obviously cares about it if she brought it up.
❥ 3) Engage With Her: If she want's to talk to you it's probably a good idea to disengage with whatever you are doing and engage with her instead. Turn off the TV, video game, computer or whatever else you may be paying attention to and face her straight on. To men, face to face communication usually means conflict. To your wife, it means intimacy. Look her in the eyes and listen to her.
❥ 4) Use Active Listening Skills: You may have learned about this at work. It works in marriage, too. Make good use of nonverbal communication. Ask her probing questions or to clarify something if you don't understand what's coming across. Even if you think you understand what she's saying it might be a good idea to repeat what she's saying in your own words every once in a while. You can do this by saying something along these lines: "So you are saying that you feel..."
❥ 5) Forget About The Problem, Focus On The Emotions: You've probably heard a million times that your wife doesn't want you to solve her problems. That's because it's true a large portion of the time. Instead of trying to get her to tell you what the problem is so you can help her solve it just talk to her an empathize with her. This is her way of figuring out what the problem is.
❥ 6) Compliment Her: Your wife needs to feel beautiful and desirable. Find ways every day to compliment her. Text her from work to tell her you can't wait to get home. Notice the things she does every single day that tend to get overlooked. Praise her on her appearance or how well she handles the kids. Don't be generic. Find specific things to compliment her on.
❥ 7) Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Sometimes good communication just means serving her with actions. Give her a break from the kids. Do a chore she normally does. Take out the trash before she has to start in on you to do it. Ask her what you can do to help her. Marriage isn't about compromise; it's about giving 100% even when you feel that she isn't. BUY HER A GIFT EVERY NOW AND THEN!!!
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