#1. Wanting Them To Change
No one can change themselves so much that they become someone else altogether. If you expect your partner to be more Like your ex, you need to go back to your ex. Accept them completely for who they are.
#2.Keeping Track
If you are competing against the one you love in the good things they do for you, you have no idea what relationships are About. You aren’t supposed to compete and keep track and return their good deeds with good deeds of your own. Love Comes from the heart, you do things for them regardless of what they do for you. If they’re down for some reason and you Stop paying attention to them just because they aren’t, you need to change yourself.
#3. Testing Them
Have you ever found yourself in a position where you’re testing them? Do you ask them questions that might tick them Off? Do you intentionally say mean things to them just to see how they respond? It’s a relationship, not a test. By testing Them, you’re just putting them in a horrible position.
#4. Not Letting Go Of The Past
We all have some horrible past experiences that we carry with us. If you read my updates on the page, you know how much I went through. But it doesn’t mean I make my love suffer for it. It’s healthy to forget the past, if you can’t seem to forget then At least not let it affect you enough to make your love suffer. Don’t bring up past issues.
#5. Not Trusting Them Enough
We’ve all seen it, relationships ending because one of the partners were a little too insecure. If you have a habit of constantly Checking their phones, asking for their passwords, snooping at everything they do, you don’t love them you want to trap Them and suffocate them. Have enough trust in them to not make them hurt you on purpose and let them breathe.
#6. Not Being All Ears When They Talk
As I’ve mentioned in many posts before, communication is key. If you want to be happy with the one you love, you have to Listen to them. If you just pretend to listen to them when they’re talking and just nod your head at everything they say, it’s Not going to end well for you. Give them the concentration they deserve.
#7. Letting Distances Grow
When we’re in love and not married, we need to spend a large number of time with the ones we love to keep the relationship Healthy and beautiful. Lack of it can really create a lot of differences between you two. I understand in this day and age we All have busy schedules, some of us have school, some of us have jobs, but that’s what its all about - to find time for the One you love because they’re worth your time and attention.
#8. Not Letting Yourself Speak It Out
One of the biggest reasons why relationships fail too quickly is when one of you decide to skip arguments and just keep It all to yourself. That in itself is extremely destructive. Arguments are a big part of keeping relationships healthy as long As they don’t happen on a daily basis. They make you let your partner know how you really feel about something they Did or a decision they made. Don’t let your brain make conclusions on its own, speak your mind.
#9. Making Them Personally Responsible For Everything
You know what we do wrong? We take the word “dependent” to a whole new level. It’s fine to depend on them but to a
Certain level where you’re still happy as an individual. Depending on your love a little too much makes them feel flustered
And makes them think their every move which actually ends the comfort level they have with you. Ease up.
#10.Getting Really Serious Really Quickly
This one is something a lot of you will agree with. You start off with someone, it’s only been a handful of days and you Already find yourself dreaming about the house you’d live in, the kids you’d have, the things you’d do together after Marriage. You need to understand, everyone needs their own time to be comfortable enough with you to help you in Those decisions. Don’t be quick, take it slow.
No one can change themselves so much that they become someone else altogether. If you expect your partner to be more Like your ex, you need to go back to your ex. Accept them completely for who they are.
#2.Keeping Track
If you are competing against the one you love in the good things they do for you, you have no idea what relationships are About. You aren’t supposed to compete and keep track and return their good deeds with good deeds of your own. Love Comes from the heart, you do things for them regardless of what they do for you. If they’re down for some reason and you Stop paying attention to them just because they aren’t, you need to change yourself.
#3. Testing Them
Have you ever found yourself in a position where you’re testing them? Do you ask them questions that might tick them Off? Do you intentionally say mean things to them just to see how they respond? It’s a relationship, not a test. By testing Them, you’re just putting them in a horrible position.
#4. Not Letting Go Of The Past
We all have some horrible past experiences that we carry with us. If you read my updates on the page, you know how much I went through. But it doesn’t mean I make my love suffer for it. It’s healthy to forget the past, if you can’t seem to forget then At least not let it affect you enough to make your love suffer. Don’t bring up past issues.
#5. Not Trusting Them Enough
We’ve all seen it, relationships ending because one of the partners were a little too insecure. If you have a habit of constantly Checking their phones, asking for their passwords, snooping at everything they do, you don’t love them you want to trap Them and suffocate them. Have enough trust in them to not make them hurt you on purpose and let them breathe.
#6. Not Being All Ears When They Talk
As I’ve mentioned in many posts before, communication is key. If you want to be happy with the one you love, you have to Listen to them. If you just pretend to listen to them when they’re talking and just nod your head at everything they say, it’s Not going to end well for you. Give them the concentration they deserve.
#7. Letting Distances Grow
When we’re in love and not married, we need to spend a large number of time with the ones we love to keep the relationship Healthy and beautiful. Lack of it can really create a lot of differences between you two. I understand in this day and age we All have busy schedules, some of us have school, some of us have jobs, but that’s what its all about - to find time for the One you love because they’re worth your time and attention.
#8. Not Letting Yourself Speak It Out
One of the biggest reasons why relationships fail too quickly is when one of you decide to skip arguments and just keep It all to yourself. That in itself is extremely destructive. Arguments are a big part of keeping relationships healthy as long As they don’t happen on a daily basis. They make you let your partner know how you really feel about something they Did or a decision they made. Don’t let your brain make conclusions on its own, speak your mind.
#9. Making Them Personally Responsible For Everything
You know what we do wrong? We take the word “dependent” to a whole new level. It’s fine to depend on them but to a
Certain level where you’re still happy as an individual. Depending on your love a little too much makes them feel flustered
And makes them think their every move which actually ends the comfort level they have with you. Ease up.
#10.Getting Really Serious Really Quickly
This one is something a lot of you will agree with. You start off with someone, it’s only been a handful of days and you Already find yourself dreaming about the house you’d live in, the kids you’d have, the things you’d do together after Marriage. You need to understand, everyone needs their own time to be comfortable enough with you to help you in Those decisions. Don’t be quick, take it slow.
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