Addicted to your Comfort Zone.
If you are always thinking about how to feel and be really, really safe then making a positive change will be impossible. The unknown and change is uncomfortable and scary to the mind because it tends to want your existence to be stable and continue to be as it has been so far.
What to do about it:
#Do it in small steps:What holds us back in our zone of comfort is often a fear or that facing that fear head on might be overwhelming. Doing things in small steps allows you to stretch your comfort zone and slowly making it less uncomfortable and frightening.
#Focus on the positive past:Realize it can be fun to get out of your comfort zone despite what your mind and feelings might be telling you before you get started. Think back to the previous times when you have broken out of your comfort zone. Focus on the positive memories, when you got out there, when you took a chance. And you will probably remember that it wasn’t so bad, it was actually fun and exciting and something new to you...
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If you are doing something you know will hurt your marriage, don't do it. Every action you do should be done as if your spouse is by your side.
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Meditation Benefits
Improved physical health - Stress, tension and negative emotions silently erode your life force. As you decrease these negative influences through your meditation, you will experience profound positive effects on your physical health, from increased vitality to a greater sense of general well being.
Better life decisions - In the whole history of the world, you are unique, and you have uniquely special path to follow in life. In the silence and stillness of meditation, you will perceive more clearly the still, small voice within that can guide you safely along your life’s path. By bringing you closer to your life’s purpose, meditation sets you free to become more truly and uniquely yourself.
You will be happier - Have you noticed that in the past you might have been getting to ‘happy’ but not any ‘happier’. We tend to seek happiness outside ourselves – where we are, what we possess, who we are with - but meditation helps us to realise that real, lasting happiness is an experience which flows from within and exists independently of our outer circumstances. As our meditation evolves, we become increasingly happier.
Spiritual Growth - At the very core of your existence lives a being of great beauty, wisdom and delight. This being is none other than your own highest self. Jesus Christ spoke for all faiths when he declared that the “kingdom of heaven is within.” Through meditation you will grow into your highest self, and all its inner wealth will be yours to use in your day-to-day life.
Inner peace brings outer peace - Everything starts from within! As you develop more inner peace through your practice of meditation, your outer life will become more peaceful as well. Little things start to happen as your life is touched by the expanding inner fragrance of meditation: problems fall away or are resolved more easily; your dealings with people become deeper and more fulfilling; and you will develop new and greater outer capacities.
Enhanced Creativity - The essence of real creativity is the same revelatory experience encountered in meditation. Imagine developing the skills to source your infinite creativity at will. Rather than your creative moments arriving at their leisure, with meditation you will be able to discover and explore your infinite potential when you decide.
Deeper Sleep - Meditation will have a positive effect on the quality of your sleep. As your mind becomes calmer, you will fall asleep more easily, your dreams will be more soulful and you will sleep more soundly.
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When things don’t go your way.
What to do when things don’t go your way
1. Take a step back and figure out the problem
2. Talk about it if you have to, don’t let it linger on in your mind
3. Remember there will be others facing the same problem. (Others that have overcome it)
4. Process your Emotions (Write about it, talk about it, meditate)
5. Acknowledge your thoughts. (Realise they are there)
6. Give yourself a break. (Go for a walk, Read a book, Sleep, Paint)
7. Find out what you REALLY are upset about. (HINT:It won’t be the whole world)
8. See this as an obstacle to overcome.
9. Focus on what YOU CAN DO next
10. Identity what caused the problem so it wont happen again
11. Realise the situation could be a lot worse.
12. Dont overthink, don’t beat yourself up about it. The problem wont be around for long
13. Pick out learning points. There will be something, there always is..
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A FAMILY THAT PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER!! BUT REMEMBER:
Families can pray together without praying. They can recite a lot of pious formulae on their knees while their minds and hearts are far from God. If there is hatred, enmity, jealousy, pride and unforgiveness amongst them, is it prayer? If it is hypocrisy to pray in such a state, the answer is not to discard prayer, but to be reconciled as members of the family.
Are the family gathered together in His name, in His presence, for His glory, to praise, thank, adore and ask Him to unite them in love? The picture on the wall should help us to see Jesus present in each one of us.
This calls for self-emptying and dying daily to ourselves (reflect on Phil 2: 1-11). Prayer is not mechanical. The minds and hearts of family members are united by the Word and the Spirit, when we come together in faith and love...
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Be good to yourself. Do something for you for a change. Give yourself a special treat. Do something that brings you a sense of joy ~ either spending time alone or with someone...or doing something that you like that excites you. Ask yourself some thought provoking questions that will help the next chapter be the best chapter of your life.
What are three things that I can do each day that can make me proud of myself? What are five things I'm grateful for? What does the next chapter of my life look like? What do I want at this point in my life? What makes me happy? Give yourself permission to check out from all the things that could possibly stress and worry you. Allow yourself the time to reconnect with yourself, your heart, and your spirit. You have one life. Make it a point to actually enjoy it, and live it! You deserve!
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Praising God through tough times ....
One of Satan's favorite schemes is to send something bad into someone's life and blame it on God. If he can get people to believe it is from the Lord, he has an easier time convincing them of his next lie, that God has failed them and deserted them. He follows this up with a further lie, "Why go on serving a God who does these kinds of things to you?" Satan's real target is to destroy our faith in God. He just attacks different areas to get at different people.
Our prayers should be in an attitude of praise even in the midst of our trials. We should lift our voices and praise the Lord like this, "Father, I praise You and love You, and no matter what the devil is doing to me I know that You shall bring me through victoriously! Show me what I need to do, Lord. Show me the door that I have opened to the enemy. I resist him in the name of Jesus, and I command him to leave with all of his oppression and attacks. Jesus, You are the Lord of my life, and I submit to You and will never deny You no matter what happens. Praise God!"...
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Your mate will never get what he/she needs from you until you get what you need from God for yourself. He fuels you to give to your mate.
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Marriage works when spouses recognize their differences as gifts from God, and seek to allow one another to utilize his/her unique personality for the benefit of the marriage.
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You'll see dramatic changes in your marriage when you focus on changing yourself more than you do changing your spouse.
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RELATIONSHIP TIP FOR LADIES!!!!! 02
To tell your husband often that you love him--ESSENTIAL.
To praise him for his accomplishments--UPLIFTING.
When you prepare a candlelight dinner for him--ROMANTIC.
Surprising him with a special evening--INTIMATE.
To leave loving notes for him to find--HEARTWARMING.
Giving him hugs and kisses--AFFECTIONATE.
And being LOYAL to him ALWAYS-----PRICELESS!!!
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RELATIONSHIP TIP FOR LADIES!!! 01
Ladies learn how to pick your battles. Nagging and nitpicking can destroy a relationship. As long as the dishes get clean and are not broken, for instance: don't nag about how you want the dishwasher loaded--the "the right way". Let him do such things his own way. Don't sweat the small stuff. Focus on what is more important and don't be a complainer...
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If you think it makes sense for the person who make the most money in the family to control it, then it should make sense for the person who carried the baby in the womb for 9 months to have a bigger say in the upbringing of the children.
God is a God of order and not a God of disorder. The rules of engagement in marriage was made when marriage was established. Don't let circumstance and situations change the rule for your family.
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For all couples in the house.
Disagreement is a must for two strangers living together for the first time. The only thing is that you must watch your utterances, do not throw baits with hurtful words. Sometimes you just need to let the other person rave and rant and when he/she calms down, those words come back to haunt and then it would be necessary to apologize. Men, never be too proud to apologize to your wives, women please try to calm down when your husbands say things that you obviously know they don't mean, no cursing, no threatening because really that is your better half...
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