There are plenty of women who can attest to staying in relationships for five, six and seven years only to hit a dead end; and, then what? You have wasted precious years (because females do have a time clock) dating without purpose. Dating is a tryout meant to last for a short period, not forever. If you find your relationship hitting these roadblocks, you should probably move on if you’re looking for marriage: -
1. He doesn’t have any concrete thoughts on marriage.
Men who want to get married have a plan. Like women, they are also working on a sort of clock. Males tend to be goal-oriented and, when desired, marriage is a goal they plan to accomplish by a particular period in their lives. It is something they have envisioned. If your guy cannot brief you on when he would like to get married and how he sees his future family, it is not a priority.
2. All of his friends are single. The bromance is a tough bond to break and the “posse” can be very influential, especially when it comes to relationships. Men who are looking for a long-term commitment typically have a few friends in the same boat. Guys who are still into superficial sex, clubbing and booze help keep one another in that zone. If that is the type of guy you are hoping asks you to tie the knot, step back for a reality check. He is not marrying anyone anytime soon because he is happily married to himself. Don’t waste your time waiting for “the life” to get old.
3. He’s cheated on more than one occasion.
Cheating is a sign of immaturity and selfishness, not exactly what you want in a husband; but, don’t worry. He probably won’t ask, anyway. He is aware of all of the trust issues his actions have caused and, chances are, he would rather start fresh with someone else when he enters the married mindset. Consider it a big favor. Cheating doesn’t stop because of a band.
4. He is hugely ambitious.
Things in life are all about timing and balance. There are some men who place their career aspirations above all else; and, in that instance, there is no room for you and what you need or want. All about him means none about you. He is the type of guy who will ask you to move with him across the country without any guarantees. The only thing he is sure of is his dream. Don’t give up your life to be someone’s question mark or extremity.
5. He travels frequently.
Men who enjoy the freedom to (whether for work or play) travel frequently are hesitant to settle down. They are content with a jet-setting lifestyle and nothing holding them back. For them, marriage is an anchor that would hinder their ability to fly.
6. He doesn’t ask about your future plans.
When someone wants to be a part of your future, they ask about it. Men who see a future with you as their wife want to know your plans and how they can fit into them. If he never asks about the type of family you want or where you see yourself in the next few years, he’s likely not the man you will marry.
7. He is divorced.
Divorced men have experienced the ups and downs of marriage and, based upon how their previous marriage ended, they may be hesitant to walk down the aisle again. It can make them cynical and resistant to lawful commitment. While he may love you and thoroughly enjoy your companionship, the idea of going through another divorce is enough to keep him from putting a ring on it.
8. He is not forthcoming about personal information. If a guy trusts you enough to marry you, he also trusts you enough to divulge personal information and really bring you into his life. This includes sharing some of his most intimate moments, an open-door policy to his home and occasional use of his credit card. If you have to beg for a key to his apartment and don’t know his greatest fear, nuptials are far from around the corner.#strongafricanwoman
1. He doesn’t have any concrete thoughts on marriage.
Men who want to get married have a plan. Like women, they are also working on a sort of clock. Males tend to be goal-oriented and, when desired, marriage is a goal they plan to accomplish by a particular period in their lives. It is something they have envisioned. If your guy cannot brief you on when he would like to get married and how he sees his future family, it is not a priority.
2. All of his friends are single. The bromance is a tough bond to break and the “posse” can be very influential, especially when it comes to relationships. Men who are looking for a long-term commitment typically have a few friends in the same boat. Guys who are still into superficial sex, clubbing and booze help keep one another in that zone. If that is the type of guy you are hoping asks you to tie the knot, step back for a reality check. He is not marrying anyone anytime soon because he is happily married to himself. Don’t waste your time waiting for “the life” to get old.
3. He’s cheated on more than one occasion.
Cheating is a sign of immaturity and selfishness, not exactly what you want in a husband; but, don’t worry. He probably won’t ask, anyway. He is aware of all of the trust issues his actions have caused and, chances are, he would rather start fresh with someone else when he enters the married mindset. Consider it a big favor. Cheating doesn’t stop because of a band.
4. He is hugely ambitious.
Things in life are all about timing and balance. There are some men who place their career aspirations above all else; and, in that instance, there is no room for you and what you need or want. All about him means none about you. He is the type of guy who will ask you to move with him across the country without any guarantees. The only thing he is sure of is his dream. Don’t give up your life to be someone’s question mark or extremity.
5. He travels frequently.
Men who enjoy the freedom to (whether for work or play) travel frequently are hesitant to settle down. They are content with a jet-setting lifestyle and nothing holding them back. For them, marriage is an anchor that would hinder their ability to fly.
6. He doesn’t ask about your future plans.
When someone wants to be a part of your future, they ask about it. Men who see a future with you as their wife want to know your plans and how they can fit into them. If he never asks about the type of family you want or where you see yourself in the next few years, he’s likely not the man you will marry.
7. He is divorced.
Divorced men have experienced the ups and downs of marriage and, based upon how their previous marriage ended, they may be hesitant to walk down the aisle again. It can make them cynical and resistant to lawful commitment. While he may love you and thoroughly enjoy your companionship, the idea of going through another divorce is enough to keep him from putting a ring on it.
8. He is not forthcoming about personal information. If a guy trusts you enough to marry you, he also trusts you enough to divulge personal information and really bring you into his life. This includes sharing some of his most intimate moments, an open-door policy to his home and occasional use of his credit card. If you have to beg for a key to his apartment and don’t know his greatest fear, nuptials are far from around the corner.#strongafricanwoman
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