- Beautiful Reception
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After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting.
* Meet him with a cheerful face.
* Beautify and perfume yourself.
* Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
* Receive him with loving and yearning sentences.
* Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
2- Beautify and Soften the Voice
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* For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of men who can marry you if you were unmarried..
- Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
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* Taking good care of your body and fitness.
* Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
* Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
* Avoide that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape.
* Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes.
* Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time.
* However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course,only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.
- Appreciation
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* The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways.
* The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?
- Devotion and Loyalty
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* In particular times of calamities in your husband's body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
* Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
- Compliance to Him
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* In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited
* In Christianity, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
-Pleasing Him If He Is Angry
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* First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
* But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
1- If you mistaken, then apologize.
2- If he mistaken then:
# Keep still instead of arguing or
# Yield you right or
# Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
3- If he was angry because of external reasons then:
# Keeping silent untill his anger goes
# Find execuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, some one insulted him
# Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened,
e.g. 1) You should tell me what happened? 2) I must know what made you so angry. 3) You are hidding something, and I have the right to know
- Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
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* You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
* You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
* You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife.
* Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
* Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc..
- Admirable Jealousy
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* Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Christian life, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others,disrespecting them, etc..
* You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
-Patience and Emotional Support
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* Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
* When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases,accidents, death, etc.
* When facing hardships (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of God and remind him of paradise.
* When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment
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