Today one of them is respect and having respect for ourselves and others. It seems as though respecting ourselves and having respect for others have declined since the yesteryear. As a black woman, I see some of us have forgotten our true worth. One would think that we would have a greater appreciation for ourselves, our men and others now from what we have come from, but to me it has gotten worse. “Too much is given, much is required.” It’s so ironic how men these days will disrespect women and as women we are so accepting of it because we just don’t seem to notice or say anything about it because the respect for our own self is so unconscious and dead.
Women have completely started to switch roles; playing the roles in their homes as both woman and man; mother and father because men have seem to have lost their direction and purpose in what is needed and required of them. They have lost what I would say the motivation of being a man because we have some way stopped them from becoming men. Our black men have been demonized and labeled as being lazy, liars, cheaters and irresponsible; however, in some cases they actually accept the roles and play them successfully, but it’s not the majority, it’s only a hand few that do partake in that behavior but let society tell it there is no solution for any of this.
Society has a way by judging you and making you feel insignificant at the same time so our black men have fallen into this stereotype. What I see in my generation, we are victims to a falling society; where society will suck you in and spit you out. Black women are taking their material things and their accomplishments and wearing it as a badge of honor, when in reality they are walking around with no clue of who they really are and what they are trying to be. Topics like this don’t take a lot of effort for me because it’s such a conscious state of mind to me. My fear and I am aware of it is me being sucked under; losing all control and having to be someone I’m not and eventually just settling to be.
I don’t want to ever be a settling ass woman, accepting any and everything just for placement to fit; for the sake of saying ” I have a man” or for the status quota to have a place in society. I want to always be a proud, young black woman; proud of the woman I’m becoming; proud of the decisions I make; proud that I am a self-reliant woman; proud of loving myself totally and completely; proud of being in love with God because once I do that everything else about me will evolve .
That’s the difference between a lot of women yesterday and today, we haven’t taken the time or the effort to make our own self proud. Yes a lot of women back in the day didn’t work and wasn’t granted same rights but they had a duty to keep themselves together. They had nothing to lose because nothing was given to them. These days everybody is on social media and its really becoming a surreal life to some people. That's real cute and nice but who are you and where are you going in your life?..
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Women have completely started to switch roles; playing the roles in their homes as both woman and man; mother and father because men have seem to have lost their direction and purpose in what is needed and required of them. They have lost what I would say the motivation of being a man because we have some way stopped them from becoming men. Our black men have been demonized and labeled as being lazy, liars, cheaters and irresponsible; however, in some cases they actually accept the roles and play them successfully, but it’s not the majority, it’s only a hand few that do partake in that behavior but let society tell it there is no solution for any of this.
Society has a way by judging you and making you feel insignificant at the same time so our black men have fallen into this stereotype. What I see in my generation, we are victims to a falling society; where society will suck you in and spit you out. Black women are taking their material things and their accomplishments and wearing it as a badge of honor, when in reality they are walking around with no clue of who they really are and what they are trying to be. Topics like this don’t take a lot of effort for me because it’s such a conscious state of mind to me. My fear and I am aware of it is me being sucked under; losing all control and having to be someone I’m not and eventually just settling to be.
I don’t want to ever be a settling ass woman, accepting any and everything just for placement to fit; for the sake of saying ” I have a man” or for the status quota to have a place in society. I want to always be a proud, young black woman; proud of the woman I’m becoming; proud of the decisions I make; proud that I am a self-reliant woman; proud of loving myself totally and completely; proud of being in love with God because once I do that everything else about me will evolve .
That’s the difference between a lot of women yesterday and today, we haven’t taken the time or the effort to make our own self proud. Yes a lot of women back in the day didn’t work and wasn’t granted same rights but they had a duty to keep themselves together. They had nothing to lose because nothing was given to them. These days everybody is on social media and its really becoming a surreal life to some people. That's real cute and nice but who are you and where are you going in your life?..
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