Ladies: Signs that he is Husband Material>>

1: He tries to take care of you. Ladies this goes beyond financial items, I'm talking about when you are not feeling well, he comes and makes you pepper soup, rubs you with rub and tucks you in type of stuff...

2. He asks how your day was and actually waits and listens for your response. This is a great indicator of a future husband. It shows that he is attentive and genuinely cares for you, now and later.

3. He is a hard worker. Men with potential for being great husbands work hard, are driven and productive, but they value a balance between work and life, and their hard work is often motivated by the drive to build a foundation for, and ultimately help to provide for, a family.

4 He talks about the future. He dreams forward with you, sharing hopes and wishes about life, work, your future family and life together as a couple. Chances are he's not only at a point in his life where he's ready to marry, but he's also dreaming about you when it comes to marriage. It's a big deal--a big step forward , being open to discussing it is huge.
5. He readily go with you and takes you to family functions..... Marriage is all about the joining of two families, so a potential husband should respect that and exhibit a natural desire to spend time with the family he hopes to be a part of.

6. He asks the tough questions, challenges you to be a better person and complements you in a way you couldn't have imagined. Great conversations that get to the core of our souls and beings make for great, lasting marriages.

7. He shows a genuine interest in the things that are important to you.

8. He realizes that he is your true best friend, and that despite ups and downs, there is no one you would rather be spending time with, especially if it is doing absolutely nothing.

9.He's emotionally available......For a man to be marriage material, he needs to be emotionally available. He won't shut down when you try to talk about feelings, nor will he refuse to discuss the relationship and how it can be improved. A man who is emotionally available is someone who isn't afraid to show his feelings, say what's on his mind or communicate openly and honestly – all very important factors when it comes to making a relationship work.

10. He loves you the way God loves him... This is a expression I always utilize, it is such a wonderful thing when you love someone the way God loves you and he loves you just the same....

Happy Wife = Happy Life 10 Rules for Husbands.

1. Thou shalt love, honour, protect, and defend your wife and children at the risk of your own life. Make her the queen of your home. No one else is entitled to that honour.

2. A little wine and romance will go further towards getting her in mood than humping her leg like a horny golden retriever. Also, helping around the house will have the same effect on her as alcohol does on a high school girl on prom night.

3. Her retail therapy is the female equivalent to your sports obsession, so don’t intervene unless you want her to return the favour.

4. It’s not called “nagging.” It’s called asking you for the 637th time to do something that she shouldn’t have had to ask about in the first place, and don’t even call her a nag or she will hang your balls out to dry for at least two weeks.

5. Keep your home in order and good repair. It brings contentment to your wife and praise from your neighbors.

6. Remember you’re going home with her so stick up for her to your mother OR ELSE.....

7. Thou shalt not shower and shave only on days you go to work. You already “married up, Tarzan"; Don’t give her cause to accuse you of false advertising. Clean yourself up for your wife, too, not just for your boss. Tighten up those abs.

8. If you want her to stop talking, acknowledge you heard her, and she will shut up (maybe).

9. Thou shalt not give your wife “the Silent Treatment.” Let her into your head and your heart. Let her know that she is safe in your heart and in your arms. Being unwilling to communicate is the same as being unwilling to love. It is refusing to give her the life-giving sustenance she needs to survive and thrive.

10. Thou shalt not keep score of slights and offenses. Extend grace and forgiveness as freely as you wish to be forgiven.

Mistake Men Make In Marriage....

I want us to look at those little mistakes which are often times ignored by men. Yes, men feel they are no issues, but these things are canker-worms, eating down thriving and promising relationships.

Becoming a king
A good number of men automatically assert a leadership role in the marriage rather than work at an equal partnership. Many believe that nature has assigned the role of headship to a man; I am one of those who speak for the headship of the man in every relationship because I believe that is the way God wants it.


I thank God for those men who have conquered this ego and taken out time to really understand what it means to be the head.

These men have grown to accept the fact that the head cannot move without the neck. But to a typical African man, the woman must become a robot if she wants to stay married. In our contemporary world, however, with women becoming more educated and joining the workforce, this system of male dominance can ultimately build resentment into the marriage. It’s not that a man shouldn’t be the king, but there should be space for both individuals to discuss, compromise, and, in turn, impact on the family kingdom. Your wife must become your partner if things have to work out well.

★Hiding financial facts
The person in control of money in a relationship has relatively more power than the one who doesn’t. “Money is another opportunity for shared experience and women who feel cut off from knowing about the finances feel threatened and therefore less loved and connected.”
When women feel less love and connection, they, in turn, begin to withdraw their affections. For a woman to be happy in a marriage, she needs to feel safe, valued, and appreciated; she needs to feel like her husband trusts her with his heart and his bank account and if this is not the case, and there is a lack of safety in the relationship to discuss matters openly, then there are deeper issues at play that warrant a discussion.

You cannot claim to love a woman while hiding your bank details from her. I know that there are women who spend carelessly and wait for that little opportunity to carry your money to her relations. But I also know that there are very many good women who would be more useful and wiser when they know your worth. Women, naturally, are better managers. Why call her your wife when younger brother is your next of kin? Is she your wife when you buy properties in your brother’s name? You believe that brother of yours loves you eh? You will know how much he hates you the very day you go down the grave.

★Selfishness in the bedroom
In the bedroom, men forget that their wives often need more than they do to get in the mood and the idea that men enjoy sex while women provide it is a common assumption. Why would a wife continue to want to be intimate with a partner who disregards her needs? The answer is simple – she wouldn’t. If you haven’t succeeded in getting your wife to open up and tell you anything in her mind, you are yet to become a husband. A conversation about sexual needs should be addressed outside the bedroom, at a time when both people are calm, relaxed and receptive to ideas; don’t discuss this when it’s time for lovemaking.

To a woman, sex is more than the penetration and banging. You must stop trusting in your macho and big sized penis because that may not matter to a woman who wants to be sexually satisfied. You must be making a mistake if you believe that your ex girlfriend liked it from the back and so every woman must like it from the back; it’s possible she wants it from the side.

Many marriages are struggling in this regard and due to the kind of society we live in, women are seen as prostitutes once they complain about this. Your wife shouldn’t just be reading about orgasm; she must experience it continuously to be a happy woman. Don’t forget; orgasm helps keep her pelvic muscles in good shape, to your own benefit.

★Comparing her to your mother and elder sister
Wives are not mothers; husbands and wives should each be self-responsible. The truth is that no one will ever be like your mother or father and it is unrealistic to have this expectation of one another. And if you want her to become your mother, would you also allow her to do the controlling and nagging that mothers often do?


Would you allow her to start treating you like a son instead of her husband? It hurts a woman when her husband begins to compare her with another woman.

She must not cook the way your mothers cooked because she wasn’t raised by your mother. It is important for both parties to know and express to each other how they feel most loved and nurtured, without expectations for having to be like the mother or father.


★Lack of meaningful communication
Do you remember getting to know your wife when you were dating? When was the last time you just spent time talking with her, not to her. Ask what her dreams are; where she would like to go on vacation; what good book she has read lately. A good number of Nigerian men talk to their wife, but never get to talk with her. That you wake up with her every morning isn’t a reason not to share her world with her.


You only give out orders to your domestic staff-your wife and that is it. If she is not your domestic staff (even your domestic staff wants to be talked with but please don’t talk with your female staff), when was the last time you had a heart-to-heart talk with your wife?

When was the last time you took her to a quiet place, away from the children just to have her pour out her heart to you? If you don’t do this, chances are she may start talking to someone else and that someone could become a threat to your marriage. Women love to talk and they enjoy it when their man succeeds in getting them to talk.

★Involving family in your problems
Families remember negatives no matter how many positives there are. Once you go to your family to discuss your wife, they will forever hold it against her. When you have issues with your wife, please learn to resolve it among yourselves or better still, get a professional counsellor involved. Never take your private matters to your parents or siblings. You will forget when it’s resolved, but they will never forget.

★Forgetting that you are more than just parents; you are lovers
Continue to date and fall in love. What has happened to those love poems you always wrote to her? What has happened to those vacation spots you took her to while you courted? Never allow the spark go off in your marriage.
Rekindle it today. Every woman wants that man who will make her feel like a teenager all over again. You must get to the point where your woman becomes a teenager all over again. Please don’t make her to age before time. Even at old age, there should be fun in the home.



★LOW SELF-ESTEEM
This is one disease that has continued to squeeze life out of many relationships. The woman has a good job but you want her to sit at home and be useless simply because you feel you can take care of her. Sir, a woman needs to exercise her brain. Your children turn out better when they have a mother who is a challenge to them; they get inspired to succeed more.

Deal with your low self-esteem. That you hear stories of women going to prostitute in Dubai, USA, and UK doesn’t mean your wife is as useless as they are. That women get to the top with their body doesn’t mean your wife will get there the same way. Give her some break and help make her career successful.

Lastly, this is funny but true. Your big stomach could be pushing her away. It is no longer a sign of wealth; it’s now a sign of sickness and careless lifestyle.
C’mon, let the love come back to your home. Correct those mistakes and don’t forget; you need God more than everything else.

Relationships: 7 Signs Maybe It’s Time to Walk Away ..

Do not be deceived: Evil company corrupts good habits. ~1 Corinthians 15:33

Have you noticed a change in a friendship? You can’t quite figure out where everything went sour. One of the first things we learn as we grow spiritually is that we sometimes outgrow our friends. It’s inevitable. It happens to the best of us. Don’t get discouraged!


Not everyone , will be happy about the “new you”. But don’t let that stop you! Keep pushing forward in your Christian walk and God will bring the right people into your life!


At some point you’ll have to decide whether to continue to fight for your friendship or just walk away. Some friendships last a lifetime while others are only for a season. How do you know when it’s time to end your friendship? Here are a few signs that may mean it’s time.

CRITICAL- Constructive criticism is one thing, but being critical is another. I for one appreciate my friends giving me their honest opinion, rather than telling me what I want to hear, but there are limits. Some people take it upon themselves to tell you everything that (in their eyes) is ‘wrong’ with you. This can be because undermining you makes them feel better about themselves. Friends don’t do this.



GOSSIP- Be wary of a friend who gossips about you. Any friend who tells tales on a friend is not a friend. You can’t tell them anything you don’t want the whole world to know because they’re terrible at keeping secrets. If your friend slips up once, Have a discussion about it. However, if it happens regularly, the pattern should serve as a warning.

CROSSING BOUNDARIES- Setting boundaries with friends is one thing, but making sure your friends respect them is something else. If your friend is constantly overstepping boundaries, It’s time to question they’re respect for your friendship and YOU. Some boundaries should be communicated or discussed between friends, while some boundaries shouldn’t have to be discussed, and are just a flat out No No.

BAD INFLUENCE- Yes. I know. No one can make us do anything we don’t want to do, but If you’re trying to walk the straight and narrow path, the last thing you need is a crooked friend trying to convince you to walk the crooked path with them. Most times, our bad choices start with the people we surround ourselves with. Keep your circle positive.

COMPETITION- They’re always in competition with you. You get a new car/ they get a new truck, You lose 5lbs/ They lose 10lbs. You see the pattern? Instead of being genuinely happy for you, they are always going to try to out do everything you do because they are secretly hating on you. Whenever you have good news, They always have BETTER news. And trust me their news will always outshine yours.

SELF-ABSORBED/ USER- They are flat-out users. They’re only around when they need you, but when you need them they’re nowhere to be found. It’s all about what you can do for them. Whenever you need someone to confide in or a shoulder to cry on, somehow the conversation shifts right back to them. It’s ALWAYS about them.

NEGATIVE NANCY- They’re always negative or trying to tell you why something (idea, goal, etc.) will not work instead of trying to help you figure out how to make it work.

So how do you know it’s time to say goodbye?

When experiencing constant arguments, often the same arguments, over and over. When the misunderstandings and emotional stress never goes away, they tend to be the emotional equivalent of a cancerous growth. If your friendship is destructive to your own self-worth and well being it’s time to let it go. Especially, if the negative outweighs the positive.

For most of us, it’s hard to accept that a friendship has run it’s course. Hopefully, this article has helped you to recognize when that time has come.

8 More Ways to Stay Connected as a Couple – When Life Gets Crazy!

I hope you can find 2 or 3 that will help you and your husband connect and keep your marriage as a priority.

#Spend some unplugged time together every day.  Put away your phone, tablet and computer and spend time together without the electronic distractions.  Tyson at Uplifting Love wrote a good post, Just Turn it Off, about this recently.  And if you need a reminder of why it’s important to focus less on our gadgets and more on the people we love, check out this great reminder video, “A Silent Message for All of Us.”

#Kiss him like you mean it.  After a few years of marriage, the ‘hot and heavy’ kissing we once enjoyed often disappears.  Add a couple of kids and a busy schedule to the mix, and kissing tends to be relegated to a pathetic peck on the lips a couple of times a day!  One way to stay connected to your husband is to kiss him like you mean it – every day!

#Touch base during the day.  If your schedules allow it, talk on the phone at least once a day, just to see how things are going for both of you.  If talking isn’t feasible, send a brief email or text, just to let him know you’re thinking of him.

#Crank up your sexual energy.  I’m not talking about having more sex (although that’s good too!), but rather about infusing your marriage with sexual energy – the communications and actions that say “I want you.”   Sexual energy “boosters” come in many forms – sexy texts , sexy nicknames, code words, quick-but-steamy kisses or touches,  planning and anticipating sexual activities, trying something outside your comfort zone, and anything else that keeps you connected sexually.

#Speak your spouse’s love language.  You probably know about the 5 love languages, but are you speaking your husband’s language consistently?  When your schedule gets crazy, maximize your connection by showing him love in the way God designed him to receive it!

#Step out in faith together.  It’s easy to get stuck in our daily routines and miss the needs all around us, needs God is often calling His people to meet.   But maybe God is calling us and our husbands to break out of our routines once in a while and do something for Him.  Stepping out in faith to do God’s work is a great way to stay connected, while meeting real needs in our communities.  

#Let go of small things that interfere with your connection.  Do you hang onto small annoyances, things your husband says or does that really bug you?  try not to, but sometimes it requires putting mind over emotions, making a conscious choice to let it go.  It’s hard to maintain a positive connection if you feel annoyed with him frequently, so consider making the choice to let some things go.  I’m not talking about serious issues in your marriage (those need to be addressed), but rather the small things that just aren’t worth the anger or frustration you invest in them.

#Work on projects together.  Rather than always focusing on your own projects, change things up sometimes and work on projects together.  If he always does the yard work and outside projects, for example, work together outside one Saturday.  Or if you do all of the interior painting, ask him to work with you one weekend to paint a room.  Or work on a project you both enjoy (like gardening) or share the “pain” of a project you both hate (like cleaning out the garage).

6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage....

What is intimacy?

Easy…it’s sex, right? Yes and no.

Intimacy is closeness with another person. Sex is often the first thing that we think of when we hear the word intimacy. Most people don’t realize that there are many forms of intimacy that allow us to have an extraordinary marriage.

6 Forms of Intimacy

#Emotional Intimacy is closeness created through sharing our feelings, thoughts and desires. You have to be honest, first with yourself, regarding your feelings before you can share them with your spouse.

#Intellectual Intimacy involves a mutual understanding about the important areas or issues in your marriage.   Perhaps you want to set goals for the next year, you want to make a budget, you want to raise your children with certain values, all of these involve discussion without fear of repercussion.  It means that you have made your marriage a safe place for discussion.

#Spiritual Intimacy is shared religious beliefs and observed religious practices. This can be as simple as praying together, (although that’s not always easy) going to church together, or discussing spiritual issues as a couple. Ultimately your life experiences, within the foundation of your shared faith, will create and deepen your spiritual intimacy.

#Recreational Intimacy is being active together.  Find those things that you like to do and do them with your spouse.  Taking a walk together, make dinner, go to places together, go dancing together ..etc …do something with your spouse that allows you actively spend time together.

#Financial Intimacy is the sharing of your financial situation.  Financial intimacy comes with developing a plan for your finances and being able to have open and honest communication with your spouse regarding money matters.

#Physical Intimacy is loving touch.  Be it holding hands, a hug, a kiss or making love we humans were designed to want to be touched.  Touch can communicate acceptance and love, a closeness that only the two of you have based on your shared experiences.




Creating intimacy involves:

consistent attention for one another and the relationship itself
respect for each another and the relationship in particular
regular, healthy verbal communication
regular expressions of caring and tenderness
honesty
understanding
encouragement
These six intimacies are vital to a successful marriage, a marriage based on safety and trust.

Relationships: Are You The Other Woman?

Before you all jump to shout loudly no, let’s be real, many of us are choosing this path, or at least find ourselves on it and at that moment are faced with whether to jump right off or continue along. Some notable women have admitted to being the other woman. Barbara Walters did, Oprah did once and I know some of you did and are.

A while ago, a young woman sat in my living room and proceeded to tell me why she thought wives were the stupidest women. She said and I quote “Majority of the men I know don’t love their wives, they love their girlfriends. The wives are the fools because they clean up after them, take care of them and at the end of the day, he goes to have fun with his girlfriend” I resisted the urge to slap the stupidity out of her mouth.

She was sitting in a married woman’s house telling me, how she thought me and my kind were stupid. Ah…but I have come to learn that in order to gain wisdom, sometimes you have to listen to even to the most inane of conversations. So I poured my drink as I listened to this otherwise educated and smart young woman, justify her choice in a roundabout fashion. The mind is amazing, you can justify anything if you really want to…I mean, I have just rationalized this chocolate chip cookie, well I am trying to justify it, but the truth us I really can’t justify it without lying to myself.

But I digress. I think the key thing in her statement was that she was lying to herself. Affairs, adultery exist in a realm of lies. He lies to her, he lies to you, he lies to himself, you lie to the world, you lie to yourself and then you cry to yourself because there will be nobody left to lie to.

There was once a girl who told a married man that she missed him and wanted to see him soon. The wife found out and confronted her. The girl feeling like a tough chick told the wife that if she were her, she wouldn’t be making such a big deal about it, after all, all she did was flirt with her man. I don’t know when we as women started to believe the lie that we have to settle for less! Now here is my two kobo as far as being with a married man is concerned. Please know that this comes from a place of love and also I have a deep understanding of what I am saying, trust me.

1. If a man is married and stays married and has you on the side, then you are only a side piece. You are simply there because you agree to be there. Occasionally he may become so besotted that he will contemplate or maybe even leave his wife, but even in that circumstance, most of the time, it’s more about his needing to leave anyway and you providing a convenient safety net.

2. Men lie. Well, we all lie. We lie to get what we want. We lie to ourselves, so what makes you think that Mr. Man is not lying to you? He told you he doesn’t love her? What line do you think he used on his wife, when she found out about your last tryst? The same one. Verbatim.

3. The wives of men who cheat, sometimes have agendas, sometimes they have a purpose greater than you can know. If they stay, they may stay for a myriad of reasons. Don’t assume stupidity is one of them.

4. Don’t believe the “it’s not where he is, it’s where he wants to be” myth. Where he is, is where he wants to be period. Trust me, don’t fall into that trap.

I know a woman who was a man’s mistress for at least twenty years. She was and is a beautiful, elegant, educated woman. I don’t know what he told her to keep her hanging on in there for all those years, it must have been good. Long and short, this man had a heart attack and left everything to his wife and kids. His mistress and her child were left nothing. Their names weren’t even penciled into the will. She couldn’t see the body.

She couldn’t mourn him publicly. She was a shadow widow, just like she was a shadow wife. She went to the memorial alone, her friends refused to go, and she sat at the back like a nobody. As she sat there crying about his death, she began to realize that in his real life, she was nobody to him. His friends that knew her, pretended otherwise. She was a strictly after midnight, no status. I think about her a lot. I wonder how a woman like that could have fallen prey.

women panic when they are pressured to marry, but there is a secondary pressure. The desire to find love. When time starts racing by, you start to become afraid. The question of whether you’ll ever find love begins to ring in your head, like an unwanted bell. The panic gets worse.

You think deep inside even though you might proclaim otherwise that maybe you won’t find that perfect love. So sometimes when a counterfeit comes around, showing you all the romance you felt would come with that perfect love but none of the commitment, you think that you have to settle for less. Don’t feel bad, so many of us have fallen for their verse. It is practiced so it’s convincing, but it’s no more real than the world they are promising you. Any man that is serious will close one door before opening another. This is fact, simple and true.

Tell yourself what you like…but find a little time to tell yourself the truth. These so called jumpoffs and sidepieces that self medicate with gucci and prada are sometimes dying inside. They don’t tell you that sometimes, he doesn’t take their calls for days or weeks. They don’t tell you that they have to beg sometimes for the money that they flash around like lottery winners. They don’t tell you that sometimes, they get lonely. They don’t tell you that sometimes they hate who they have become. I guess that is what gets to me the most. I told that girl in my living room and I am telling you. If you are on the verge of making this choice. Don’t choose him. Choose you.

Don’t give up everything you believe for a person that has made no commitment to you. Don’t give up the right to dignity for a little bit of intimacy, don’t give up being alone and end up lonely. You are worth more. You deserve to live and walk in the light. You deserve to subsist on more than crumbs, you deserve the cake. I understand that fear, believe me I do. I think that sometimes that books and movies set us up. They are about romance, not love. When the screen gets blurry and the music starts, what is happening is not love, its romance.

Love is commitment, pure and simple. It is not necessarily sexy. It doesn’t necessarily come with perfect words. It simply is. And if you stop looking for the lies, you will see the truth and say it. Anyone reading this, I am telling you…it is as the Bible says, God is not mocked. It is the principle of the world even, what you sow, you will reap. I tell you, any tears you cause any woman to shed over your relationship (whatever level it is) with her husband, you will weep doubly when and if you get married.

Secondly, it is a dangerous business, stepping outside of God’s covering. I posted this here because so many “good” girls are falling for the lie and before you know it, they leave their morals and their faith behind because of shame. My darling, I don’t speak because I am perfect, I speak because I know all too well. No matter how lonely you are, no matter how fine he is, or how lonely he claims to be, you deserve more. You are worth more.

And if you have fallen, if you are there, maybe he is sleeping right beside you right now…it is not too late to get up and say no more. Never mind the lies that float around in your head saying you are ruined. You are not ruined. What was Mary Magdalene, what about Rahab, no one is ruined before God. He is watching you and wanting you to come back to Him. He will receive you with open arms.

You are loved. By the most High. Now tell me what man made from dust can compete with that?

Relationships: Negativity Will Block Your Blessing .....

Watch your thoughts for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become habits. Watch your habits for they become character. Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.

It all starts with how we “think” …..Our outlook on our future and lives should be positive.

Negative thinking can keep us captive. We can unknowingly choke our own blessings with negative thoughts. Sometimes we have our minds programmed for failure and we always expect the worse. Other times negative thinking is a form of self-protect. We tend to think that well if I expect the worse then I will not be as disappointed if things do not turn out the way that I hoped.

In order to receive what is rightfully ours we must remove all negative thinking from our mindsets. It is time to stop speaking in a way that is inconsistent with what we want. Life is better when we keep a positive mindset. We must eliminate the words “I can’t” and “if”.

Instead, we need to replace those words with “I can” and “when”. What we seek is what we will find. The only way to give birth to what God has placed in our hearts is to expect great things. In order to expect great things we must first think only of greatness.
Prayer and meditation can assist us in overcoming negative thinking. We must use positive thinking, positive words, and positive actions to change our lives.

When negative thinking tries to creep in we must remind ourselves that God is BIGGER. He is bigger than the enemy. He is bigger than any circumstance. He is bigger than any obstacle. He is bigger than our jobs. He is bigger than any sickness. He is bigger than any addiction.

He is bigger and we must not allow our negative thinking to keep us from seeing the greatness of God. Quit allowing negative thinking to overpower the dream or vision that God has given you and walk with an attitude of faith and expectancy. Believe that all things are possible.

Do not allow where you are now to discourage you. Look to your vision to take you to where you want to go. Let your dream guide you to where you want to be. Always dream big and keep a positive vision.

God can do exceeding abundantly above all that we can ask or think. God can do anything. He can make the impossible possible. Make that your vision!#strongafricanwoman

Friendship tips that can make your marriage lovely....

Marriage is an institution that every man and woman looks forward to. There are many of the lot who even dread of this drastic change in life. Apart from love, one needs understanding, adjustment and compromise to make things work for a successful martial relationship. Have you ever thought what keeps two people bonded for life? Of course, romance is a significant factor, but more than that it is the friendship between a couple that makes their bond stronger.

But, unfortunately that is the one thing, which is missing in most relationships. When a person finds their best friend in their life partner, the magic doubles! Friendship helps the two to talk to each other easily and casually. Friendship in marriage is one of the most wonderful things to ask for or to strive for. Well, take a look here as we tell you why friendship is important in a marriage.


1. Builds a deep connection Friendship in marriage is most important for those couples who have met through an arranged setup. When two strangers come together, awkwardness and surprises are common. But, once they become friends they feel much more comfortable and relaxed with each other. More than love and romance, friendship in the marriage helps the couple connect at a much deeper level that is very difficult to break or fade.

2. Helps in communication In a marriage, especially the arranged ones, negative criticism is the biggest culprit that can spoil a relationship. But, when friendship is uniquely merged with marriage, it makes the communication from both sides more relaxed and sincere. There are neither any secrets nor any lies, both of which are a big threat to a marriage. Friendship also helps in building trust that strengthens the bond.

3. Sense of security and no loneliness The openness and ease with the partner helps create a sense of peace, wellbeing and security in the relationship. This is what takes the marriage a step above and makes it all the stronger. Also, when you find your best friend in your sweetheart, you will never be lonely. There will be someone close to you to share the joys and sorrows of life. This is one of the significant factors why friendship is essential in a marriage.

 4. Enjoy the company Why do we make friends? It is because we enjoy the company of some people and would always like to be surrounded by them. We share things with them freely and we can be our true selves in their presence. Well, if this is how good and important friendship is for you, then how about applying it in your marriage as well. Once you discover friendship in your marriage, you will love your beloved’s company always. And, you will look only for them when you wish to talk your heart out to someone.

5. It adds fun and excitement! When one partner brings marriage to a level of friendship, it helps the other to be at ease and create fun memories with each other. Just as you go out and do exciting things with your friends, you can do the same with your better half. Say, if you go out for a road trip or trekking with your best friend it will definitely be fun and exciting. Now if your best friend happens to be your better half, wouldn’t the same experience become more special?

6. Gives you something to value There is nothing more valuable in life than finding true friendship. It is one of the most precious things to cherish. Now, what can be better than finding this very friendship in the love of your life? This wealth is incomparable to any of the riches in the world.

So, whether you are about to get married or are newlyweds, think about adding a dash of friendship to make your bond of marriage perfect and stronger! -