8 Ways To Know You’re Dating A Guy With Commitment Issues .....

Commitment can be a very scary thing for many young people, myself included.
 Eventually, maturity and sorting out personal issues will allow you to get over your fear of commitment.

You can ask any woman who’s dated a guy with commitment issues; it can be a roller coaster, and that can be good or bad thing, depending on if you enjoy roller coasters.

A woman who is dating a guy with commitment issues is often left confused, wondering where she stands with him. However, if you’re a woman not looking for something too serious, dating a guy with commitment issues can be exciting, as they tend to be fun and spontaneous.

Of course, most of us women can have commitment issues, as well; I’m just speaking from my own personal experiences and a woman’s point of view. Here are a couple of ways to know that you might be dating a guy with commitment issues:

1. He doesn’t believe in titles

Guys with commitment issues date a lot but rarely get into relationships. They can be in committed relationships, but date a number of women. Anytime the woman he dates talk about making them“official,” he would tell them he doesn’t believe in titles and that being official was silly.

He believes in titles; he is just too afraid to give them one.

2. He says all he is focused on right now is school or work

School and work are common excuses used by commitment-phobes to stay out of a serious relationship. In college, he will  use the excuse, “he's just focusing on school,” to not date anyone seriously.

After college, he will use a similar excuse: “he's just focused on being an entrepreneur.” Don’t get me wrong; mixing in a relationship while being focused on school or work can be difficult, especially if you’re trying to get a business off the ground. However, if a guy is willing to be committed, he will find a work-life balance.

3. You haven’t met his friends or family

Meeting a guy’s friends and family, specifically family, is a big step in the dating cycle. A guy with commitment issues may be reluctant to introduce you to his family, especially if he is a family man.

A guy won’t want to introduce a girl to his family until he is sure she will be in his life for a while. Guys with commitment issues hate thinking long term. Introducing a girl to their family scares the sh*t out of them, and makes them feel like things are getting too serious.

4. He only makes last-minute plans

He is notorious for making last-minute plans when he is  a commitmentphobe. He never makes plans more than 24 hours ahead of time because too much could change during that time frame.

Anytime a girl tries to make plans with him a couple of days in advance, he  will usually cop out with a response similar to, “Yeah, I’ll see what my schedule looks like.” Any guy with commitment issues hates to make plans ahead of time because the earlier plans are made, the more commitment is involved.

5. He doesn’t spend the weekends with you

How a man spends his weekend is usually a good indicator of where his main interests lie. Many times, a guy with commitment issues will spend time with you during the week after he’s done with school or work, but will spend the weekends with friends, partying or going out of town.

Guys with commitment issues love traveling. For guys that work or go to school during the week and have weekends off, it can be too much to commit a weekend to one girl.

6. He is good with words but not actions

Guys who have commitment issues tend to be good speakers, but their words don’t always translate to actions. When he is dealing with commitment issues he is great at acquiring, but terrible at maintaining.

He is able to talk a good game, but  he is not always back it up. Not necessarily because he can’t, but because he is afraid to. He says the things he says with good intentions; it is just that sometimes his commitment issues get in the way of himfollowing through with his promises.

7. He lacks emotion

Men dealing with commitment issues tend withhold showing emotions or have trouble displaying their emotions. This can be for one of two reasons: He genuinely lacks emotion, or he is hiding emotions because he doesn’t want things to get to serious.

Emotions are scary to a commitment-phobe because they are an indicator that all signs are pointing towards a serious relationship.

8. He talks to other women

Feeding off my first point, for the majority of the time, you’ll be dating a guy with commitment issues; you won’t be in a relationship with him.

Due to the fact that he’s not in a relationship, he feels it’s alright to talk to other women because he technically isn’t “cheating.” He may not be physically involved with these women; he may just talk to them so he doesn’t feel he’s being held down by one girl.

Many times, a guy with commitment issues will keep a bench (women to fall back on) due to the fact that he doesn’t plan on dating one girl for too long.

9 Signs That You’ve Found The Man You Should Be With ...

There’s one thing we’re all chasing after. One force that trumps money, power or reason, and that very closely dictates the kind of people we become. And it’s love.

Falling in love is like coming home. Your worries are quieted and you feel protected in your partner’s arms. The man you give your heart to just feels right.

When you’re deep in love, it’s hard not to picture the rest of your life with that other person. But how do we know for certain that it’s real forever and not just a current fantasy?

Perhaps we’re a little old-fashioned, but we like to believe that marriage — for better or for worse — is sacred for life. Here are the nine signs you’ve found the man you want to spend the rest of your life with:

1. You don’t need to be “on” in front of him

Good days and bad days, he understands who you are and doesn’t expect you to be anyone but yourself. In his eyes, you’re special by just being you. There’s no pretending.

During those lazy times when all you want to do is lounge in stained sweatpants and not formulate sentences, he gets it because he’s right there with you. You can totally be yourself — whatever mood you’re in — and he always thinks you shine.

2. Your happiness is his happiness, and vice versa

You know he’s the one because he’s good to you in ways that you’ve never thought possible. He wants what’s best for you, even if it comes at a cost to him.

The man you marry gives selflessly, as your interests are now his interests. In fact, he thinks he’s being selfish when he indulges in you because it brings him pleasure, too.

To that end, he can balance ambitions at work with ambitions at home. Some stages or careers are more difficult than others, but he finds ways to let you know he hasn’t forgotten about you.

3. Even at the end of a really bad day, all you want is to be with him

No matter what kind of crummy mood you’re in, you’d rather be with him than be alone, for you’re better with him than without him.

He patiently listens while you speak your mind and he won’t invalidate your concerns with his honest feedback. His confidence and passion positively influence your own, which makes your relationship all the more exciting. You want to be near him, always.

4. The attraction is palpable

Physically, emotionally and mentally, you two are compatible on all those levels. The chemistry between you both is powerful enough to block everything else out. Sometimes it feels like it’s just him that really matters.

Even doing the littlest things together, such as running to the grocery store, feel more special because he’s around. The attraction is pervasive from the bedroom to the most platonic of places, like the doctor’s office. You can’t keep your hands off each other and you certainly aren’t holding back.

5. You want to share every experience with him

When you envision your future, he has a major role in it (and vice versa). The idea of spending the rest of your life with him doesn’t scare you. Being by his side is where you feel most comfortable.

When something funny happens or you receive good news, you immediately want to share it with him first. When a cheesy love song comes through your headphones, you instinctively think of him.

From what he ate for lunch to what he’s currently watching on television, you’re interested in all that he does. And, while you sometimes hate to admit this, you’re more inclined to do something if he’s part of it. That’s just what companionship is to you.

6. You have the same idea of romance

Sometimes you feel like you’re in a “Twilight” movie with all this inexplicable magic and love buzzing around. Whatever your definition of romance is — intimate dinners, long road trips, cuddling in bed — he shares in it and will go the extra step to make that happen.

He won’t shy away from pouring his heart out or opening up to you because he trusts you and wants to connect with you on a deeper level. He’ll always be your man, but he’s not afraid to show you a softer side either.

7. You love more than you fight

It never feels good to fight because you care too much about him to hurt him. The compromise always seems like the best option because you both can be happy. But at the end of the day, you really can’t stay mad at each other for long.

8. He not only listens to you, but he also hears what you’re saying

He can read between the lines and anticipate your needs without you having to communicate them all the time. He’s thoughtful and well-intentioned like that.

He knows what you are trying to say without having to always explain yourself. You help each other grow and become the people you want to be.

9. He accepts you as you are

You’re messier, louder and maybe less funny, but he loves you for it. He makes you feel good about all those things you might dislike about yourself.

And he brags about you to his friends because he’s so proud to call you his own. You would brag more, except everyone already knows how enamored you are.

He knows everything about you — good and bad — and appreciates both because it’s all part of who you are.

You are his, he is yours and suddenly it all feels comfortingly simple.